Davina Kotulski

Davina Kotulski
Born January 22, 1970

Davina Kotulski, Ph.D., born on January 22, 1970, is a well-known, long-time marriage equality activist and leader in the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Equal Rights movement.[1] Kotulski began publicly advocating for marriage equality in 1999. Kotulski is a clinical psychologist, public speaker, life coach and author of Why You Should give a Damn About Gay Marriage and "Love Warriors: The Rise of the Marriage Equality Movement and Why it Will Prevail".

Background

Kotulski was born in Gresham, Oregon. She earned her Bachelor of Science in Psychology at Portland State University. In 1991 Kotulski re-located to the San Francisco Bay Area in California to attend graduate school. She received her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology at Alliant University in 1996. Also in 1996, during an evening of country-western dancing, Kotulski met her former wife Molly McKay. Kotulski worked as a clinical psychologist with the Federal Bureau of Prisons from 1996 until 2008.

In 1999 Kotulski became involved in working for civil marriage equality for LGBTIQ couples. Kotulski served as the Executive Director of Marriage Equality USA 2005-2007. In 2008 Kotulski realized her dream of being legally married to McKay after the California Supreme Court struck down the state ban on gay marriage in their ruling on "In re Marriage Cases". She and McKay were active in the fight against California Proposition 8.

In June 2011 Davina Kotulski and Molly McKay separated and began divorce proceedings.[2] Kotulski has since spoken out about the right of same sex couples to divorce as a part of the fight for marriage equality.[3]

Kotulski currently serves on the Advisory Board of Marriage Equality USA, does public speaking and education regarding marriage equality, writes, and works as a life coach.[4]

Activism and Leadership

In 1999 Kotulski led a panel discussion at the California Psychological Association to discuss organizing against the Knight Initiative.[5] She met Tom Henning that same year and joined Californians for Same-Sex Marriage (CASSM), an organization committed to pro-actively putting same-sex marriage on the ballot in California.[6]

Beginning in February 2001, Kotulski and her formerly "unlawfully wedded" wife,[7] Molly McKay, began going to City Halls in the San Francisco Bay Area asking for marriage licenses and organizing annual "Marriage License Counter" protests to draw attention to the hundreds of rights same-sex couples are denied.[8] Kotulski and McKay joined Marriage Equality USA and with L.J. Carusone and others the two women founded Marriage Equality California (MECA). They began organizing events such as annual Tax Day Protests held on April 15 to point out the inequities same-sex couples face with regard to taxation and representation, and launched an effort to win marriage equality in California.[9][10] Kotulski served on the California Freedom to Marry's Outreach Committee. (The California Freedom to Marry Coalition morphed into the Equality Alliance and is now known as the Let California Ring Campaign under the auspices of Equality California's Equality California Institute.[11]

To recognize the life of Diane Whipple, to honor her survivor Sharon Smith, and to point out the injustices same-sex survivors face, Kotulski helped organize the Diane Whipple Anniversary march on January 26, 2002.[12]

On October 11, 2003 she organized Come Out For Equality bringing together straight allies, clergy like Reverend Cecil Williams and San Francisco Poet Laureate, Janice Mirikitani, LGBT service members and veterans, binational couples, and children of same sex parents to elevate support for equality for LGBT people and address the injustices of the Don't ask, don't tell Policy and the Defense of Marriage Act and to raise awareness for the Uniting American Families Act formerly known as the Permanent Partners Immigration Act.

On February 12, 2004, Kotulski and McKay did their fourth annual marriage license counter action. Unbeknownst to them, Mayor Gavin Newsom had begun allowing same-sex couples to marry, in what would become known as San Francisco’s 2004 Winter of Love.[13] As soon as they finished their rally, Kotulski and McKay became the 17th couple to wed at San Francisco’s City Hall, married by Assemblymember Mark Leno.[14][15] They honeymooned at the Marriage Equality Valentine's Day Rally, organized by Kotulski and McKay with other marriage equality leaders – the rally featured comedian Margaret Cho. They and several other newlyweds then planned a Northern California Marriage Equality Visibility and Educational Bus Tour.[16]

In August 2004 the California Supreme Court invalidated their marriage, along with those of 4,000 other couples. Kotulski's response was to organize a Marriage Equality Caravan with the help of Molly McKay, Belinda Ryan, Wendy Daw, Jacqueline Frank, and Bev Senkowski. On October 4, 2004, Kotulski and 43 other activists loaded a bus and traveled across the country stopping in 13 states and hosting marriage equality forums and panels at universities and churches. The "Marriage Equality Express" culminated in the first national marriage equality rally in Washington, DC on October 11, 2004, National Coming Out Day. The rally featured the Hawaii Marriage Case Plaintiff Genora Dancel; Beth Robinson, Attorney in the Vermont Freedom to Marry case; Reverend Jimmy Creech, a Methodist Minister who was defrocked for marrying same-sex couples and leader of Soulforce; Dr. Sylvia Rhue, National Black Justice Coalition; Robin Tyler, organizer for gay rights marches in Washington, DC and founder of StopDr..Laura.com; Kathy Kelly, Marriage Equality Georgia; Musicians Tuck and Patti, who sang what Davina, Molly and the husband and wife duo agree is the theme song to the Marriage Equality Movement-“Love Warriors”; politicians Mark Leno and Eleanor Holmes Norton. Marriage Equality Caravaners also told their stories.[17][18]

Kotulski and McKay have appeared together on CNN, Newsweek, Time Magazine and USA Today. They are featured in three documentaries: Freedom to Marry (shown in 7 countries and featured on PBS), Pursuit of Equality, and I Will, I Do, We Did following the San Francisco marriages that took place in 2004, as well as several television shows including American Quest, documenting the National “Marriage Equality Express”, and a Queer Nation TV special in New Zealand.[19][20][21]

In 2004 Kotulski’s book “Why You Should Give a Damn About Gay Marriage” was released. In November 2004, she became the Deputy Director of Marriage Equality USA and co-organized a LIFT THE BAN rally in Oakland, CA with the Service Members Legal Defense Network, Equality California, and Bay Area American Two Spirits. In June 2005 she became the Executive Director of Marriage Equality USA, replacing Connie Ress. After ending her term as E.D. Kotulski joined the Advisory Board of Marriage Equality USA. Kotulski has continued to participate in marriage equality actions, including the marriage counter actions.[22] In 2010 her book “Love Warriors: The Rise of the Marriage Equality Movement and Why It Will” prevail was published.

Written Work

Awards/Recognition

In 2009 Kotulski and McKay were Community Grand Marshals of the San Francisco, CA PRIDE Parade[32]

In 2006, Kotulski and McKay received the Michael Switzer Leadership Award from New Leaf Counseling Center in San Francisco, CA.[33]

In 2004, Kotulski received the "Saints Alive" Award from the San Francisco Metropolitan Community Church and was "sainted" by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for her activism and advocacy on behalf of full marriage equality for all couples.

In 2003, Kotulski and McKay received the "Defenders of Love" Award from the East Bay Pride Committee.

References

  1. ↑ Moran, RF (2004). "How Second-Wave Feminism Forgot the Single Woman". Hofstra Law Review (Hofstra University) 33 (1): 223–298.
  2. ↑ Compiled by Matthew S. Bajko. "The Bay Area Reporter Online | Wedding announcements". Ebar.com. Retrieved 2013-11-02.
  3. ↑ http://davinakotulski.com/blog.php. Retrieved 2013-11-02. Missing or empty |title= (help)
  4. ↑ "Marriage Equality USA Advisory Board". Marriageequality.org. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  5. ↑ "California Psychological Association". Cpapsych.org. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  6. ↑ Tom Henning, Co-Founder of Californians for Same-Sex marriage. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  7. ↑ Kotulski, Davina (April 2004). Why You Should Give a Damn about Gay Marriage. Advocate Books. p. 202. ISBN 1-55583-873-1.
  8. ↑ 2009 Press Release describing marriage counter actions since 2001
  9. ↑ American Sociological Review, Culture and Mobilization: Tactical Repertoires, Same-Sex Weddings, and the Impact on Gay Activism, Pg. 870,
  10. ↑ "No taxation W/o…".
  11. ↑ "Home". Let California Ring. Retrieved 2013-11-02.
  12. ↑ Ryan Kim (2002-01-27). "SFGate.com article by Ryan Kim". Articles.sfgate.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  13. ↑ "Mother Jones article by Mark Morford". Motherjones.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  14. ↑ Grindle, Katie (2004-02-14). "Indie Bay news iutems February 14, 2004". Indybay.org. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  15. ↑ "New"> New Leaf Parties at ZinZanni by McMillan, Dennis. April 20, 2006 sfgate.com, accessed August 7, 2007.
  16. ↑ Rona Marech (2004-02-16). "SFGate article "Taking Message to California'heartland’"". Articles.sfgate.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  17. ↑ SFGate article “Marriage equality caravan joins spirited rally in DC” cites Kotluski as the brain behind the caravan and rally,
  18. ↑ “International Marriage Equality Express”, article on Canadian site Equal Marriage for Same-Sex Couples,
  19. ↑ "Freedom to Marry". Freedomtomarry.tv. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  20. ↑ "Pursuit of Equality". Pursuitofequality.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  21. ↑ ""I Will, I Do, We Did" preview". Vodpod.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  22. ↑ Marriage Counter Action Held on Anniversary of Summer of Love, San Francisco Bay Times article by Dennis McMillan,
  23. ↑ E.B. Boatner (2012-03-22). "Here Come the Brides". Lavendermagazine.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  24. ↑ "Seal Press".
  25. ↑ "Book Review: "I Do/I Don't: Queers on Marriage"".
  26. ↑ "Suspect Thoughts Press". Suspectthoughts.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  27. ↑ "Review "Why You Should Give a Damn About Gay Marriage"". Alyson.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  28. ↑ ""Love Warriors" book site". Lovewarriorsthebook.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  29. ↑ "Create Space". Create Space. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  30. ↑ Alex, David (2013-11-28). "Bay Area Reporter book review". Ebar.com. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  31. ↑ Marriage Equality Advocates Take on Anti-Marriage Prop. 8 by Davina Kotulski,
  32. ↑ "Community Grand Marshals". Sfpride.org. Retrieved 2013-12-04.
  33. ↑ San Francisco Bay Times article by Dennis McMillan, “New Leaf Parties at ZinZanni”,

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