Dally Messenger III

Dally Messenger III (born 1938) is a civil celebrant, author, publisher, commentator, and a founder and chronicler of the civil celebrant movement which originated in Australia.^[1][2][3][4] He is the grandson of the Rugby Union and Rugby League footballer Dally Messenger aka Herbert Henry “Dally” Messenger,^[5] whose nickname “Dally” has become his grandson's given name.

Antecedents and Family Background

Dally Messenger III (Dally Raymond Messenger) shares with his grandfather, the rugby player, some ancestors who were notable rowers and boat-builders. Dally Messenger III is the great-great-grandson of a Thames boat-builder James Arthur Messenger who was a Queen's Waterman, barge master to Queen Victoria, and sculling champion of the world from 1854 to 1857. He is also the great grandson of Charles Amos Messenger, the sculling champion of Victoria (ca. 1875), 1881 Rowing Champion of New Zealand, and 1887 contender for the sculling championship of the world.^[6] Charles Amos also established the first boatshed on Sydney Harbour at Balmain, from where it was later transferred (by flotation) to Double Bay NSW.

Biographical Summary

According to a 1972 feature article on him in the 'Woman’s Day',^[7] and an article in 2011 in the Docklands News (Melbourne),^[8] in his own personal website, and to information provided in the semi-autobiographical book,Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement,^[9] Dally Messenger III was born in Sydney in February 1938, the son of Dally Messenger Junior and Dorothy née Davidson, was raised in Sydney, but spent most of his school years in Katoomba in the Blue Mountains where he attended St Bernard’s College. Thereafter he returned to Sydney and spent his last year of secondary schooling at Marist Brothers, Parramatta, then worked for several years in banking and wholesale before entering a seminary to study for the Catholic priesthood at St Columba’s College, Springwood NSW (and later St Patricks’s College, Manly).

Reform and Change in the Catholic Church

The historian Christopher Geraghty relates that Messenger had a reputation in the seminary for diplomatically challenging authority.^[10] Messenger gained his Sacrae Theologiae Baccalaureus (STB) in 1964, teaching qualifications in 1965, and was ordained a priest in 1966. Historians Michael Parer and Tony Peterson record that Messenger was an activist and significant analyst of the changes in this post Vatican II time of turmoil in the Catholic Church.^[11] Historians Parer and Peterson also describe Messenger’s disillusionment with the conservatism of church leaders and with the lack of Christian values, such as compassion, kindness, respect and tolerance, in the seminary, and in the organisational structure of the church. He was dispirited by what he perceived as errors in church teaching and practice, such as the role of church authority and the prohibition on all methods birth control. He could not understand the resistance to what he considered to be the Vatican Council’s clearly agreed reforms. He took a strong stand in rejecting celibacy of the clergy as contrary to the church’s own teaching on human rights.^[12][13] He left the priesthood after only a year. Referring to Messenger and others, church historian Edmund Campion records the “great wastage of talent” which occurred at this time in the Catholic Church.^[14]

The New Earth Credit Union

Campion further describes how Messenger set up the New Earth Credit Union to assist former clergy with low interest loans. At the time loans to former clergy were generally unavailable because the former clergy usually had no assets and no credit record. Severance payments and superannuation were unheard of.^[15] After leaving the priesthood Messenger moved to Melbourne, where he taught at the then Presbyterian Haileybury College for six years (1969-1975). During this period he married and became the father of three daughters. In 1976 he gained a Post Graduate Diploma in Librarianship (teacher-librarian) from Melbourne State College (now part of Melbourne University).

Dance Australia Magazine

Messenger was also the founding editor and publisher of Dance Australia Magazine, which he established in 1980. His work on creating this magazine was recognised by two national arts awards. The first was an award for Services to Dance in the inaugural National Dance Awards, presented at the Sydney Opera House in May 1997. The website citation reads as follows:-

Dally had the vision and determination to publish the first dance magazine in Australia. In 1980 he began producing Dance Australia, which is still providing quality news, advice, reviews and advertising for the dance industry.^[16]

Tributes to Messenger's achievement were subsequently published in Dance Australia from Keith Bain, Noel Pelly, Vicki Fairfax, Alan Brissenden and Pamela Ruskin.^[17] Vicki Fairfax wrote in this edition,

What a debt we owe him and what an enormous hole there would be in our history were it not for the magazine he set up, against all the odds.

The second award was an Australian Dance Award for “Outstanding Achievement in Dance Education” awarded in 2008 and presented on June 15 at the Arts Centre in Melbourne.^[18] Messenger records the early struggles to establish Dance Australia in an article “A Pioneer’s Reminiscence” he wrote for the 25th Anniversary edition. Dance Australia is currently published (2014) by Yaffa Publishing of Sydney who purchased the magazine ca.1990.

Pioneer of Civil Celebrancy

Dally Messenger III is most noted for his long involvement in the civil celebrant program. He was the first person ever to apply to become a Civil Marriage Celebrant under the provisions of the then-new Commonwealth Marriage Act of Australia (1961).^[19] Ray Dahlitz, author of the Secular Who’s Who, describes Messenger as a humanist, educationalist,and defender of cultural rights, and records that he was appointed first secretary of the Association of Civil Marriage Celebrants of Australia (ACMCA).^[20] A great number of sources are available during his forty years of involvement to describe his celebrancy career, his public statements and his ideals.^{[21][22][23][24]} He was appointed a Civil Marriage Celebrant by Attorney-General Lionel Murphy in 1974. They both shared a revulsion at the way secular people were humiliated at the then Registry Office civil “marriage ceremony”. At Murphy’s suggestion he became committed to near full-time work as a celebrant. In this profession he sought to progress Murphy’s vision.^[25] Campion describes how Messenger became national media spokesperson for the main body of civil celebrants.^[26] He is variously described as the “Don of Celebrancy”, the “Doyen of Celebrancy, “Pioneer Celebrant” and similar.^[27][28] He was the inaugural president of the original Funeral Celebrants Association of Australia.^[29] He was a founder, and is now a Life Member of the Australian Federation of Civil Celebrants Inc. The citation for Life Membership published by the Australian Federation of Civil Celebrants Inc, acknowledges Messenger as one who

has passionately advocated freedom of choice, standards of service, proper selection and training, and artistic content of ceremonies in response to community need

and as

The founder and inaugural President of the original Funeral Celebrants Association of Australia which established a unique professionalism in non-religious and personally prepared funeral ceremonies.^[30]

He was made a Life Member of the Celebrants and Celebrations Network (CCN) on May 8, 2014 in recognition of his services to celebrants. The citation with this Life Membership calls Messenger ‘’The Don of Celebrancy’’ and refers to ‘’his unique contribution to the development of civil celebrancy in the Western World.’’^[31]

Civil Celebrancy in New Zealand

In the 1990s Dally Messenger was active in spreading the civil celebrancy movement to New Zealand and the UK, countries where it was less well established. He was invited to New Zealand as guest keynote speaker at three annual conventions in the 1990s. Celebrant Yvonne Werner records that the New Zealand government recommended his book, Ceremonies for Today, as a basic text for all their celebrants.^[32]

Civil Celebrancy in the UK

Celebrant Yvonne Werner also records that,

During this same period (the late 1990s) Dally followed up an invitation by Roberto Pravisani and Carol Pool who had established a small group of celebrants in England. He gave a number of lectures and teaching sessions in the UK before returning to Australia.^[33]

The Scottish author and celebrant, Neil Dorward, acknowledges Messenger’s contribution to funeral celebrancy in the UK and refers to him as “the father of civil celebrancy”.^[34]

Civil Celebrancy in the USA

In 2000-2002, supported by Gaile and Pat Sarma, Messenger was instrumental in establishing civil celebrancy in the USA. He gave the launching address to the then newly formed Celebrant USA Foundation in New Jersey on June 5, 2002 at the Montclair Library. For two months prior to this event Messenger lived in Montclair, New Jersey, training the first civil celebrants, five of whom, at that stage, had graduated with a Diploma from the International College of Celebrancy,^[35] including the newly appointed director, Charlotte Eulette.^[36]

International College of Celebrancy

In 1995 he established the International College of Celebrancy, and has since been active in endeavouring to achieve “best practice” in civil celebrancy. In later decades Dally Messenger has often been a critic of bureaucrats in the Australian Attorney-General’s department who tried to reduce the training requirements for persons appointed as celebrants, or who wished to train them primarily as marriage-orientated paralegals rather than as skilled in creatively combining the evocative use of language, symbolism, poetry, history, storytelling, music and ritual into powerful ceremony.^[37] Messenger now lives in Melbourne with his wife since 2005, Remi Barclay Messenger.née Barclay, a.k.a. Bosseau.^[38]

Books by Dally Messenger III

Ceremonies for Today (1979)

Ceremonies for Today, 1979.^[39] This is a book of model civil celebrant ceremonies, mainly weddings, funerals and namings, together with a collection of quotations and poetry suitable for readings, plus sample vows and other components. It was designed to provide celebrants and their clients with resources from which clients could compose their own personal secular ceremony.

The books stated aim was to suggest poetry, music and other artistic components which would lift civil celebrant ceremonies to a level of substance, beauty and meaning that was not generally a part of civil weddings and funerals in the Western world at that time. Messenger sought to help celebrants and their clients find classic poems of quality which could be appreciated by guests when first heard in a ceremony. The book contains poetry and prose from such distinguished writers and poets as William Shakespeare, Christopher Marlowe, D.H.Lawrence, Rabindranath Tagore, Percy Bysse Shelley and many others.^[40]

James A. Murray, criticised Messenger’s ceremonies as “a phenomenon without historical or cultural roots”.^[41] On the other hand, commentator Dick Gross credits Messenger as recognising the importance of traditional cultural and religious frameworks in composing his “top-selling compendium of cvil ceremonies”.^[42]

Ceremonies and Celebrations (2003)

Ceremonies and Celebrations 2003.^[43] A heavily-revised and expanded fifth edition of Ceremonies for Today, 1979. This edition expands the range of civil ceremonies to include ceremonies for most of the major milestones of a human life. It is widely acknowledged as the basic text for civil celebrants.^[44][45]

So Mum and Dad have Separated (1981)

So Mum and Dad have Separated 1981. A book written to assist children of separated parents.^[46] The book was widely discussed at the time and was recommended to divorcing couples with children by the Family Court of Australia. It was described by reviewers as “easy to read and practical”, “positive, reassuring”. “in depth and mature” and “very comforting information during the trauma of a parental divorce”.^[47][48][49]

Being a Chum was Fun

Being a Chum was Fun: The Story of Nicky and Nancy Lee 1979.^[50] A history of pre-war and postwar Melbourne radio and of the famed children's program The Chums of Chatterbox Corner. It chronicles the careers of Kathleen Lindgren (Nancy Lee), Nicky Whitta (Nicky) and Graham Kennedy. Graeme Blundell, who wrote the story of the famed Australian and TV broadcaster, Graham Kennedy, refers to Lee and Messenger’s book as “priceless”.^[51]

The Master (1982)

The Master: the Story of H.H. "Dally" Messenger and the Beginning of Australian Rugby League 1982.^[52] The author claims this was the first published monograph history of the beginnings of Rugby League in Australia.

The Master (2007)

The Master: The life and Times of Dally Messenger, Australia's First Sporting Superstar 2007.^[53] This book was co-authored with Sean Fagan. It is a revised and re-written version of The Master 1982.

Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness

Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement 2007.^[54] As the title implies this is a semi-autobiographical account of the history of civil celebrancy in Australia since its establishment in 1973 until the turn of the century in 2000. It describes the role of the reform-minded Attorney-General Lionel Murphy who provided the legal framework that inaugurated independent civil celebrancy and helped it progress much faster in Australia than in other English-speaking countries. It praises Murphy for his awareness that the celebrants' grasp of poetry, music, symbolism, storytelling, choreography and ceremony-continuity was more important than legalities.

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