Church etiquette
Church etiquette varies greatly between the different nations and cultural groups among whom the Christian Church is found. In Western Culture, in common with most social situations, church etiquette has generally changed greatly over the last half-century or more, becoming much less formal. Church etiquette might be seen to mirror other social changes, with the use of given names for leaders, informal dress.
Dress
In North America and Europe, up until the late 1950s it was often expected that worshippers wore their best clothes to church services (known colloquially as the Sunday best). This tradition has declined in many mainstream churches but is still much in evidence in the Southern Baptist and Latter-day Saint traditions in the U.S., and in many black evangelical churches.
Those who support more relaxed dress codes do so on the basis that congregants should come to God as they are, and that communion with God requires no special clothing. Those who support more formal dress consider that although communion with God does indeed not require special clothing, a church service is an office of devotion and as a matter of respect, it is therefore appropriate to wear one's best attire.
Even where dress code is more relaxed it is still generally considered proper to dress modestly.
Catholic customs
In order to keep a respectful atmosphere in the major Roman churches, a dress code is enforced, and those not dressed in a conservative fashion might not be admitted within. This is especially true with the Major basilicas. Shirts without sleeves are not permitted. Men may not wear shorts; women's skirts must reach to below the knees.
Upon meeting the Pope, or taking part in Papal ceremonies, the preferred mode of dress is either a business suit or in national costume. Male diplomats may, in formal settings, wear white ties and tails, without top hat. Black tie is contrary to the norm. Catholic Queens may wear white dresses with white mantillas, usually propped up with an ivory comb. Under normal conditions, other women may wear black dresses with black mantillas At times, when newlyweds are presented to the Pope, the bride may wear her Bridal dress.
Alcohol
It is generally considered poor form to consume alcohol (other than as part of the sacrament) on church premises, and turning up intoxicated to a church service would generally be considered disrespectful. The Methodist, Latter-day Saint, Seventh-day Adventist, and other traditions go further, frowning on alcohol altogether.
Church etiquette in fiction
Some movies and television programs highlight etiquette mistakes that can be made in churches. For example:
Source | mistake | correct etiquette |
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Nothing Sacred (TV series) | Person didn't know what to do with communion sacrament, so threw it in rubbish | Treat sacrament with respect, and don't feel obliged to join in this part of the service if not comfortable with it (for example, choosing not to hold hands out to receive communion is usually a polite signal to simply receive a blessing instead). |