Casual relationship

A casual relationship, colloquially known as a fling, is a physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have a sexual relationship (a situation colloquially called friends with benefits or fuck buddies[1]) or a near-sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship. Motives for casual relationships vary.[2] There are significant gender and cultural differences in acceptance of and breadth of casual relationships,[3][4][5][6] as well as in regrets about action/inaction in those relationships.[7]

A casual relationship may be part time, or for a limited time, and may or may not be monogamous. The term encompasses friendships between people who enjoy each other's physical intimacy but do not aspire to be long-term, and may or may not involve parties who desire temporary relationships purely for purposes of sexual pleasure. In each case, the relationship's dominance in the lives of those involved is being voluntarily limited, and there is usually a sense that the relationship is intended to endure only so long as both parties wish it to.

A casual relationship differs from casual sex, which has little or no emotional element, and from a one-night stand, as the relationship extends beyond a single sexual encounter. To the extent such relationships include casual sexual contact, the relationship is generally focused on fulfilling sexual desires rather than romantic or emotional needs.

Casual relationships sometimes include mutual support, affection and enjoyment, which underpin other forms of loving relationship.

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Casual sex

Casual sex is any of certain types of sexual activity outside the context of a romantic relationship. The term is not always used consistently; some use it to refer to any extramarital sex, while some use it to refer to sex in a casual relationship.[8][9]

While providing a sexual outlet, the practice of casual sex often carries negative connotations. In some sexual relationships among teenagers in the U.S., the predominant activity is not penetrative sex, but rather oral sex and mutual masturbation, as this reduces the risks associated with sexual promiscuity, such as pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Some medical authorities – such as Bonnie Halpern-Felsher, a professor of pediatrics – suggest that teenagers do not view oral sex as "real sex" and use it to remain in a state of "technical" virginity.[10]

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References

  1. ^ Collins English Dictionary - Complete & Unabridged 10th Edition. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/sex+buddy. Retrieved 2011-05-21. 
  2. ^ Belle, Heather; Michelle Fiordaliso (2009). Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Ex*. Sourcebooks Casablanca. ISBN 1-4022-2923-2. 
  3. ^ Chara PJ, Kuennen LM (February 1994). "Diverging gender attitudes regarding casual sex: a cross-sectional study". Psychol Rep 74 (1): 57–8. PMID 8153236. "Abstract: Students at five educational levels ranging from seventh graders to college seniors were surveyed regarding their attitudes about the acceptability of casual sex. A striking developmental contrast was found: males became increasingly accepting of casual sex; females were consistently opposed to casual sex at all educational levels." 
  4. ^ Cubbins LA, Tanfer K (June 2000). "The influence of gender on sex: a study of men's and women's self-reported high-risk sex behavior". Arch Sex Behav 29 (3): 229–57. doi:10.1023/A:1001963413640. PMID 10992980. 
  5. ^ Welsh DP, Grello CM, Harper MS (August 2006). "No strings attached: the nature of casual sex in college students". J Sex Res 43 (3): 255–67. doi:10.1080/00224490609552324. PMID 17599248. http://www.sexscience.org/uploads/media/JSR_43-3_Grello.pdf. 
  6. ^ Gwen J. Broude, 'Male-Female Relationships in Cross-Cultural Perspective: A Study of Sex and Intimacy' Cross-Cultural Research, Vol. 18, No. 2, 154–181 (1983) Abstract: Societies are neither entirely consistent nor entirely arbitrary in their patterning of heterosexual relationships. This research suggests that sexual relationships, and male sexual orientation are not highly related to each other.
  7. ^ Roese NJ, Pennington GL, Coleman J, Janicki M, Li NP, Kenrick DT (June 2006). "Sex differences in regret: all for love or some for lust?". Pers Soc Psychol Bull 32 (6): 770–80. doi:10.1177/0146167206286709. PMC 2293329. PMID 16648202. http://www.pubmedcentral.nih.gov/articlerender.fcgi?tool=pmcentrez&artid=2293329. "Abstract: within romantic relationships, men emphasize regrets of inaction over action, whereas women report regrets of inaction and action with equivalent frequency. Sex differences were not evident in other interpersonal regrets (friendship, parental, sibling interactions) and were not moderated by relationship status" 
  8. ^ casual – Definition from the Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary
  9. ^ casual sex – Definitions from Dictionary.com
  10. ^ Halpern-Fisher B University of California at San Francisco [1]

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