Talk:Online dating service

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The link to online-datingsites.com is a money maker. They make money simply by giving referals to websites. Anyone else suspicious of their intent putting a link in the wiki?

Yes.

It would be better to link directly to the sites.

I heard rumors that some net dating services are a con. Should we add that to the article? --SuperDude 03:47, 8 May 2005 (UTC)


"Online dating" is by far the more common name for this. I am moving the article. --Macrakis 03:22, 23 Jun 2005 (UTC)

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[edit] Wikidating

Should we make an online dating service in the form of a Wiki? --SuperDude 22:55, 26 July 2005 (UTC)

Sure! Here's how it could work on Wikipedia.
Wikipedians could use their userboxes to make profiles. Anyone whose user page contains Template:User friendly, Template:User:MiraLuka/Userboxes/User girlfriendwish or Template:User:MiraLuka/Userboxes/User girlfriendwish, and userboxes for a few basic things (such as gender, home city/region and language) would be considered part of the pool; those on other language Wikipedias would be considered if they had matching Babel templates.
When a user was searching for matches, they would run an open-source script that someone would put on a Web page for the purpose. Because of the scripting involved, this would probably have to be either a special page or non-wiki. The script would tell them what userboxes they would need to add, if any. If they had all the requisite userboxes, they could enter their search criteria (e.g. date must identify as heterosexual, must be between 25 and 30 years old, must be en-3 or higher, must live in Canada, must not be blocked, must not be an Aspie, must have made 50 or more edits in English main namespace). They would also have options about what to consider (astrological sign? favourite colour? music preference?) Then, the script would search the User namespaces of all wikipedias and generate a compatibility score for each result. Then, it would output a ranked list of links, with the most likely matches at the top.
Note that some users put boxes on sub-pages of their user page, so those would have to be searched as well.
Finally, the searcher would follow these links, read the user pages, and decide whether each one was interesting. He or she would then post to the user talk page of the object of his or her affections, then add it to his or her watchlist. If no reply was forthcoming, he or she could use Special:Emailuser. Boilerplate greetings would be available for this purpose, as would boilerplate replies of both yes and no, but many users would choose to write their own messages. If the person accepted, the two could continue talking on the user talk pages, use the e-mail form to start a conversation that way, or use instant messaging. And they would live happily ever after. The end. :-) Seahen 12:27, 5 May 2006 (UTC)

i think is a brilliant idea.go ahead as far im concerned fully give my support.22:13,Felisberto6May2006(UTC)


I'm not sure how the whole "community of editors" meme would really help much, unless if you think hundreds of people editing your personal ad for clarity and content would really help your chances. There are already plenty of online dating sites and some with tie-ins to existing communities, but if you feel you can start something, I wouldn't be one to stop you. It just seems like anything of that nature would take place on a user to user basis by people examining profiles and running into people with similar interests aligned to theirs, which is what a dating service would want to do anyway.--BigCow 06:31, 27 July 2005 (UTC)

Check the *Personals Wikia - it's very new, a long way from operating as a dating site, by the look of it. There are a few technical challenges, I think. --Singkong2005 03:42, 24 April 2006 (UTC)
Maybe if users could protect their own pages.... Seahen 21:16, 5 May 2006 (UTC)


I think that Online Dating is pointless because you can run into multiple sex and drug addicts. I don't think the links should be on here but that's just my opinon

Heya, toots! --AAA! (AAAA • AAAAAAAA) 09:25, 3 December 2006 (UTC)


online dating is simple. stalkers lie and say they are someone their not. they act like nice guys and when they ask to meet you, and you say yes, they will rape you and leave you for dead and you will end up with aids. —Preceding unsigned comment added by 137.87.131.90 (talk) 22:02, 14 December 2007 (UTC)

The link to Online Dating Rights.com should have stayed because it is non-profit and deals with intense government regulation of online dating sites that is just beginning via a gateway law regulating the internationally oriented sites (only 0.4% of Americans consider dating non-Americans compared to a majority of Europeans actively doing so). - Jim

[edit] hey, on-line dating can work

I first joined a UK site because of anxiety over the who what and where stuff..(I lived in the USA) I learned the interview/marketing edge to it and moved on to the local match.com ect. type of thing. I dated quite a bit and found more friends than romances..But one relationship just grew..There was a 3 hour driving difference and we did this for 3 years..I am now 52, a female.. my guy is 44 and would simply tell anyone that "he was looking to get layed..but ended up finding a life mate."We are from different everything and would not have ever met in any other venue.

[edit] hoax

I have tried to subscribe to some dating services, and all but one are a hoax. Many of them let you subscribe for free before informing you about a service fee for activation of site services therefore I consider that a hoax. OkCupid is a major exception to this since it is 100% free. Should we mention in the article about my near-stereotypical thought? --SuperDude 06:16, 8 August 2005 (UTC)

I agree with the Hoax part. its stupid

-- Evenios


[edit] Discrimination

The discrimination of the signup process on major sites seems to be extremely offensive. New members are required to even specify their penis length and width! I mean, if that isnt genuinely evil discrimination, I dont know what is. Question is, should it be mentioned or not? Not for any prudish hangup, but so girls reading it dont get any evil ideas.

[edit] junk removal edit

MillionaireMatch.com is not mentioned in the Flass artcle. From history page :"This information is from the Rebecca Flass article."--Jim 05:58, 12 November 2005 (UTC)


[edit] Adding links to this wiki

Hi guys,

I run a site that help guys with women online and offline. If you want to know more, the url is www womenmadeeasy net

I guess you guys get a lot of webmasters adding their sites to this page and I was wondering if it's only the commercial/spammy sites you guys delete?

I'd like to add my link to the article because I genuinely think it can help guys improve their ways with women. If theres a reason why I can't then at least let me know, maybe it's something I can fix.

Cheers, Sean —Preceding unsigned comment added by Morryau (talk • contribs)

These types of links are not welcome here. Please see Wikipedia:WikiProject_Spam#How_to_identify_spam_and_spammers. Image:Monkeyman.pngMonkeyman(talk) 15:52, 20 May 2006 (UTC)
Whatever happened to assuming good faith? If the guy were just your run of the mill spammer, he'd have just added the link to the article rather than making a coherent and reasonable comment on the talk page which only a fraction of the readership view (actually your post sounded more like a spam robot than his). The talk pages are for discussion and consensus, it's not your place to overrule other people and censor what's being discussed. It may very well turn out that the guy's site isn't appropriate for the article and shouldn't be included, but it's pefectly acceptable for it to be discussed on here. I'm reverting your removal of the site's URL so if anyone should wish to discuss the matter [of inclusion], they have the information to do so. - 85.210.1.14 18:59, 8 September 2006 (UTC)
Monkeyman's response was civil and in line with Wikipedia's spam policies. OhNoitsJamie Talk 06:51, 9 September 2006 (UTC)


Why does it seem that this hypothetical dating site targets men only? Shouldn't it be geared to both sexes too? Who will the users be to this wikidating - looks like only guys so far. In any case, good initial idea but there's an excellent free online dating site and community out there already in Canada run by one guy that is storming the market.68.144.80.254 05:29, 4 January 2007 (UTC)

[edit] Possible images

So I just removed a huge Mate1 ad from the article, because in my opinion (although I believe it was added in good faith by User:KRW), it's inappropriate for an article about a general product or service to feature prominently the advertising or image of one single product within the class. Some examples I looked at included:

  • Soft Drink where the main picture shows a variety of brands on a supermarket shelf (with a photo of the Diet Pepsi product line much lower down)
  • Potato chip where two of the three pictures are of chips without packaging, and the third is a non-current ad
  • Fast food where all of the food is shown unwrapped (and only the Big Mac is clearly identifiable), plus a nondescript interior photo and a photo of several adjacent restaurants
  • Chocolate bar with an unwrapped chocolate bar shown.

This brings up a quandry: what do we use for images? My best ideas are to make mockups of a hypothetical dating site front page or ad and use them instead of real images. Suggestions? --ByeByeBaby 05:58, 26 September 2006 (UTC)

[edit] more male members

Can anyone come up with a citation for the statement that most site have more male members than female? Copitorojo 00:18, 25 January 2007 (UTC)

I think it's just generally assumed that there are more men hard up for love than women, but no, there's no citation and I don't think you're going to find one. I'd love to see someone come up with some real statistics on online dating sites and expose them for the scam they are. Shreditor 00:58, 12 February 2007 (UTC)

I have been using Plentyoffish.com for some months. The ratio of males-to-females is difficult to measure, but one thing is clear: Women are very unlikely to mark a male member in their favorites list. Males are less selective with their lists. Female members regularly have 20+ male "fans", but males rarely have more than a handful of "fans"

[edit] Request to add external link of 100 + Online Dating Portals

Dear Author,

I request you to visit my analysis on 100+ Online Dating sites. Analysis & ranking is given on the basis of popularity and traffic genereated by portals. Hope this link will be helpful to readers. Here is the link:

(removed advertising link)

I am now aware whom to ask to add external link so i am using this page.

Thanks —Preceding unsigned comment added by Voyage2mail (talk • contribs) 22:41, April 11, 2007 (UTC)

Thank you for your suggestion, but unfortunately that website link does not meet our criteria for inclusion. Please see WP:External links#Links normally to be avoided, which specifies "Links to sites with objectionable amounts of advertising." You may wish to try DMOZ.com, which is a link repository. -- Satori Son 20:16, 16 August 2007 (UTC)

[edit] Free online dating examples

For some reason someone keeps deleting the examples of free online websites i give, such as plentyoffish.com which, if you use www.alexa.com you will find that as of 8/16/07 the site has a higher daily reach than the non-free sites americansingles.com and eharmony.com, and does almost half as well as match.com. If we are mentioning these sites on this article, I think it makes sense to at least post plentyoffish as well. No? MeEricYay 19:21, 16 August 2007 (UTC)

Well, I tried to remove the list of examples, but OhNoItsJamie beat me to it. I see that they have now added back in the plentyoffish.com mention, but not the full list, which I agree should not be included.
My rationale is that Wikipedia is not a directory. Also, the removed section had some personal advice and observations which were unsourced, and thus prohibited by WP:No original research and WP:Verifiability. -- Satori Son 20:05, 16 August 2007 (UTC)

Satori Son, that is totalitarian idiocy and assholism, and you know it. —Preceding unsigned comment added by 80.65.242.154 (talk) 08:58, 26 February 2008 (UTC)

But why only PlentyOfFish getting mentioned. There are many more free sites out there, is it just the traffic numbers? imingle.ca is also a free site, no traffic, but does it qualify to be mentioned? —Preceding unsigned comment added by 142.162.84.72 (talk) 02:47, 9 March 2008 (UTC)

[edit] Online Dating = Crap?

Honestly, the levels of mistrust on personals websites, coupled to the amount of FAKE profiles, mean that online dating is quite negative. Members frequently ignore messages from other members, and there are lots of liars on these sites. I once met a girl on AOL dating. Her profile said that she was a non-smoker, a non-drinker, and didn't do drugs. She was the complete opposite, and was quite foul mouthed! Another member said that she was a light drinker, insisting that she only drank two bottles of wine per weekend! —Preceding unsigned comment added by 88.108.104.75 (talk) 16:37, 2 February 2008 (UTC)

[edit] Dating site for dog lovers

Hi,

I would appreciate it if you would add my dating site for dog lovers to your links here - <spam removed - this is not meant to be an exhaustive list of dating sites>.

Thanks


Derek Collinson

<removed link> The Gables Sledmere East Riding of Yorkshire YO25 3XJ Phone: 0502 436505 Email: derek@<removed> 86.144.134.84 (talk) 13:45, 10 March 2008 (UTC)