Sexaholics Anonymous

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Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) is one of many twelve-step programs based on the original Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. SA takes its place among various 12-step groups that seek recovery from sexual addiction: Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Sexual Compulsives Anonymous and Sexual Recovery Anonymous. Collectively these groups are referred to as "S" groups since all their acronyms begin with that letter: SA, SAA, SLAA, SCA, SRA.

SA helps recovering "sexaholics." According to the group, a sexaholic is someone for whom "lust has become an addiction." Thus SA distinguishes itself from other S groups by defining sexual sobriety as no sex with self or with partners other than their spouse. In 2001 The author of the SA White Book further refined this definition to mean a spouse in a heterosexual marriage. However homosexual sexaholics aren't excluded from participation in SA meetings and some homosexual SA groups have been formed under the traditional AA name of "Live and Let Live."

The group uses the book "Sexaholics Anonymous" (often referred to as "The White Book") as a guide. The book explains that "the sexaholic has taken himself or herself out of the whole context of what is right or wrong. He or she has lost control, no longer has the power of choice, and is not free to stop."

Contents

[edit] Literature

Unlike SLAA, which considers the AA Big Book as containing some outdated ideas and old-fashioned concepts[1], SA fully accepts and unabashedly encourages all AA General Conference-approved literature for use in SA meetings. Some SA groups will refer to AA literature more often than to their own SA texts. SA seeks to be somewhat of a replica of AA, applying all of AA's principles to lust and sexual addiction. In this sense, SA differentiates itself from other S-groups in having a more AA-style type of sobriety and view of relapses and thus the strictest kind of sobriety definition[2].

Books:

  • SA White Book (also available on CD)
  • Recovery Continues (also available on CD)
  • Practical Recovery Tools
  • Step into Action
  • Member Stories, Vol. One (2001)
  • Best of Essay 2002

Pamphlets:

  • SA Pamphlet
  • SA: to the Newcomer
  • Why Stop Lusting?
  • Does a Male have to have sex?
  • SA for health and helping professionals
  • First Step Inventory
  • Practical Guidelines for Group Recovery
  • Discovering the Principles
  • Notes on the Early Growth and Origin of SA

[edit] Proponents

Because SA's sobriety definition has clear roots in Judeo-Christian morality, the movement has a great appeal to Evangelical Christians, Roman Catholics[3] and religious Jews. Jesus Christ taught in the gospels that lust was a serious sin[4] and the Bible clearly forbids extramarital, adulterous and homosexual sex.

The majority of SA members are men since female sex addicts tend to struggle with relational and sexual addictions simultaneously and often gravitate more towards Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. Some heterosexual male SA members obviously find it easier to be in a group with a smaller concentration of women, since women are the object of their sexual addiction.

Sex addicts attending SA appreciate its sobriety definition because it helps to avoid setting a bottom line of self-defined sobriety that is too permissive.

[edit] Critics

Many authors and psychologists who deal with sexual addiction feel that SA's sobriety definition is far too restrictive. The most famous psychologist involved in sexual addiction treatment, Patrick Carnes, clearly encourages self-defined sobriety in his writings, saying that a no-masturbation definition of sobriety is only appropriate for some sex addicts and that bottom lines can in fact be modified over time[5]. Some homosexual authors viciously criticize SA for its pro-heterosexual marriage stance[6].

Modern sexologists sometimes encourage pornography and masturbation in order to explore and express one's own sexuality, which are clearly forbidden to SA members abiding by their own literature.

The "founder" of SA himself, Roy K., has written a document about seeking a deeper surrender than currently occurs in many regular SA meetings[7]. Some regular SA meetings can devolve into "relapse culture" where members continue to attend for years without ever accumulating any long-term sobriety. The issue is that anyone can attend SA as long as they claim to have a desire to be free from lust and be sexually sober (according to the 3rd tradition of SA) - yet there is usually no apparatus to quantify this desire and constant relapsers are tolerated.

Some Christian leaders generally criticize the 12-step movement's adherence to God as a "higher power" that can be defined by individual members as a God of their understanding[8].

For example, Dr. Douglas Weiss founded Freedom Groups to resolve some of these criticisms. The groups are very similar to SA in format and sobriety definition except they are Christ-based and allow for feedback and some cross-talk during meetings[9].

[edit] External links

[edit] Footnotes

  1. ^ Augustine Fellowship (1986). Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
  2. ^ Jan R. Wilson, Judith A. Wilson (1994). Addictionary: A Primer of Recovery Terms & Concepts from Abstinence to Withdraw. Hazelden PES, p.316
  3. ^ Mark R. Laaser, 2004. Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction. Zondervan, p. 231
  4. ^ Matthew 5:28
  5. ^ Patrick J. Carnes, David L. Delmonico, Elizabeth Griffin (2004). In The Shadows Of The Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior. Hazelden PES.
  6. ^ Joe Kort. Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives. Alyson Publishing, p.108
  7. ^ http://schlimme.com/sexaholics/SAMeetings/3rd7thand11stepprayersur.htm
  8. ^ http://www.celebraterecovery.com/message.shtml
  9. ^ http://www.sexaddict.com/Freedom_Groups.html
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