User talk:SebastianHelm/NVC

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Please post a message here if you want to give me feedback on how I can improve my nonviolent communication at Wikipedia.
nvc-1 This user is able to contribute with
a basic level of
Nonviolent communication.


I'm currently just in the middle of reading the book "Nonviolent Communication", so I have to do triage; I'm starting with the easier cases. Especially in Sri Lanka related issues, people are dealing with a lot of "pressure in our heads", as one friend put it. Currently, I'm not ready to tackling cases like this yet, but I may take a stab at that one. I'll keep you posted! — Sebastian 19:01, 10 January 2007 (UTC)

[edit] RE: Nonviolent Communication

Hello - got your message on my talk page. While I'd love to help, I unfortunately have zero experience with the Nonviolent Communication process. My edit(s) to the article were strictly basic cleanup - spam removal, in fact. Sorry! --AbsolutDan (talk) 00:52, 11 January 2007 (UTC)

[edit] Reply about NVC

Thank you for your note. In response to your request for assistance with NVC on Wikipedia, I can tell you that I have been most interested in the consensus process as mediated through this (electronic) medium. I've taken a basic course in NVC and have taken conflict resolution traiining at the Centre for Conflict Resolution at the Justice Institute[1] in New Westminster, British Columbia. However, it is complex to apply principles such as NVC here.

Amongst NVC practitioners, I have heard the term "street NVC," implying that the practitioner can apply the methods of NVC without seeming to use the "You feel... because..." format. In non face-to-face interactions such as on Wikipedia, it seeems that other adaptations are needed as well. One thing I've found useful is the use of open questions preceded by "what" or "how." For example: What do you mean by X? How would you see that happening? and so forth. I have found policies such as Civility and guidelines such as Consensus and Assume good faith helpful. Good luck with your endeavors and let me know if there are specific situations I can assist you with. Sunray 21:18, 13 January 2007 (UTC)

Thank you very much! That's a good tip about open questions. While they also help in oral conversations, they may be even more effective here, since people can see questions more easily, and presumably perceive them less as a "rhetorical question" or hidden accusation, because they have some time to think about it. Would you recommend the Justice Institute? (I'm in Seattle, but I know some people in BC.) — Sebastian 02:29, 14 January 2007 (UTC)
Yes, I would certainly recommend the JI to anyone interested in conflict resolution, although they don't teach NVC per se. Sunray 07:26, 15 January 2007 (UTC)
Thank you! — Sebastian 04:27, 17 January 2007 (UTC)
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