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No one can know how we feel if we do not say. We cannot expect to get understanding if we do not ask for it. No one will dispute that sometimes life's issues are too much for one person. It is fair to say that sometimes Wikipedia's problems fall under the same heading. This is a place where you can bring the bruises that are sometimes gotten as an editor.

Guidelines for respondents:
  1. Assume good faith. Accept that what a person has to say is a legitimate perception of how they see it. Right or wrong, that is their perception.
  2. Be helpful. If someone is here, it is because something has gone wrong. The right way to solve problems does not cause grief. If you solve the problem the right way, the grief will dissolve.
  3. Listen to what someone has to say. It's not uncommon for a listener to stop processing information after the first sentence. Allow yourself to hear the full message before you respond.
  4. Be positive. Suggest what someone ought to do, not what they ought not to do. Note the good things the person has done.
  5. Be supportive. Except for the worst of the worst, we desire to keep most users. No matter how wrong the person requesting help is, find the pearl of value they provide and focus on that.
  6. Provide all feedback on this page. Doing so will allow others to benefit from the advice if they encounter similar situations.


  1. Prior to January 2007






[edit] Welcome to Reach Out

We are discussing how to best use this project to reach Wikipedians in trouble without creating bureaucracy and to help people edit the encyclopedia. Join the discussion on the talk page.--ElaragirlTalk|Count 02:05, 3 January 2007 (UTC)

[edit] I try to be an honest person...

...but it seems others don't see the world the way I do. I'm a broken man, and I just don't see any reason to do much of anything, including eat or sleep. No, I'm not suicidal, because I know it'll pass, but it hurts like hell and I just want it to go away. I don't expect any kind of notice or responses, but if anybody reads this at all, at least I feel that somebody out there has noticed me. I blanked my user page a couple days ago, and nobody noticed. I probably won't be especially active until I can be motivated by anything but hurt and outrage. – ClockworkSoul 20:59, 2 January 2007 (UTC) Recopied from archive page - --ElaragirlTalk|Count 02:04, 3 January 2007 (UTC)

Hey, its all right. You try to be an honest person, but other people do not understand you, is that right? Just let it pass, or you can try to change your point of view...I know how you feel, I'm like that too. It's just that maybe people are sometimes unclear of what you mean, so you must speak up! I just sort of got over it, I don't bother anymore. Why should people affect how I feel about things? You should do the same. Try to make people understand. If anyone can, it's you! You're trying to be honest, and that's a good thing, but sometimes, I learn to let the moment go...you don't have to be honest about everything, just when you think the time is right. Hope this helps, and I hope you feel better soon! Cheers! Zacharycrimsonwolf 13:14, 14 November 2006 (UTC) 12:44, 3 January 2007 (UTC)

Clockwork Soul, I hear you. It sounds like the last time I had my heart really broken. I couldn't eat, and lost 40 pounds (which actually was kinda nice). I slept though - all day. I have some tips for you and anyone else going through some stuff right now:

  • Take B complex - this helps elevate your mood and energy level, it also literally coats the nerve endings. It's both elevating and soothing at the same time. You can't take too much - most of the B vitamins are water soluble. If you take a complex, the one's that are difficult to process by the body are minimized.
  • Get as much natural light as you can - another thing that hits is the the diminished sunlight this time of year. Seasonal Affective Depression (or Disorder) have been proven as very real, and easily remedied. If you can afford it, invest in some "grow" lights.
  • Talk to people - reconnect with as many supportive people you can. Or perhaps just pick up the phone, or answer an email. You don't have to be perfect when you communicate, just communicate. It's important to maintain connections when everything goes "pale".
  • Get out of your space at least every day - not just to go to work, but to some other "safe" place, such as a library, or a museum. Just seeing other people helps.
  • Fake it till you make it - an oldie but a goodie. This has been scientifically proven to work. If you can plaster a semi-genuine smile on your face when you walk out the door, people will respond, and it can generate a cycle of positive feeling.

These are just some of the tips I have for battling depression. Please try not to sleep to much - it tends to exacerbate things. I know you're not exactly talking about depression, but these things work for heartache and malaise as well. If you ever need to dialog, email or tap a message on my talk page. I care about you. Please believe that, because I don't lie. Nina Odell 05:58, 4 January 2007 (UTC)

  • relax and take a little break. Don't let it hurt you. You know what, no one see anything the exact same way, so don't stress yourself. I hope that helped. Bloddyfriday 16:05, 13 March 2007 (UTC)
  • Everyone is unique, don't stress over it. Sometimes I feel the same way about not getting enough attention. Try taking a short wikibreak / drinking some Chamomile tea, that always works for me. I hope that this helps in any way.  ~Steptrip 00:23, 26 March 2007 (UTC)
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