Talk:Polyfidelity

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[edit] Pros and Cons?????

Why is there a Pros and Cons section? Is there a Pros and Cons section in the page on monogamy? (No.) Pros and cons are always relative to one's purpose or perspective. They are not universal. They don't belong in an encyclopedia. Perhaps the information could be rephrased in neutral term?

DBooth 03:22, 11 August 2006 (UTC)

[edit] Removed "Lifelong intent"

I removed the phrase "with a lifelong intention of relationship" from the definition, because fidelity is about faithfulness. It does not necessarily mean a lifelong intent of relationship.

DBooth 03:22, 11 August 2006 (UTC)

[edit] A 2nd opinion

Not noticing this "Talk"/comments section, on my last visit I edited the "Polyfidelity" item. (Since then, it's been largely restored by someone else.) Although that effort went well enough, I'd have rather used this comments space for my opinions --which are intended to be supplementary, rather than corrective, and which require simply talking about my own experiences (which doesn't make a good Wikipedia entry).

• Most people and most polyamorists define “faithfulness” by the negative consideration of not sharing intimacies outside of a given set of relationships. Maybe I'm alone in my opinions now, but once upon a time my (then) lady and I advocated for a polyfi which defined faithfulness positively --in terms of the keeping, holding and loving of one's others. That assurance of holding on to each other worked well for us as we attempted to develop other relationships, even though our poly/communitarian efforts ended up bitter disappointments.

I hope we can agree that avoiding/minimizing STDs is much more a matter of prudence than it's any kind of a basis for bonding with another person (or not). Let's save that for other practical discussions, like birth control, financial matters, and such.

209.181.51.133 07:04, 5 June 2006 (UTC)

Actually, STDs are probably the reason why this type of relationship isn't the norm. Most "morals" and societal patterns like this evolved out of practical difficulties so long ago that everyone's forgotten the original reasons.

Compare and contrast with polyamory and fluid bonding. 141.155.10.134 01:12, 8 June 2006 (UTC)

Huh? I don't understand this comment. Polyfidelity *reduces* the risk of STDs (in comparison with non-fidelitous polyamory). "Morals and societal patterns" like polyfidelity evolved out of practical difficulties? Practical difficulties with what, monogamy? "Original reasons" for what? Are you trying to say that polyfidelity is not the norm because of STDs? And that morals and societal patterns evolved out of practical difficulties with polyfidelity? -- DBooth 02:22, 8 February 2007 (UTC)