New relationship energy

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New relationship energy is a state of mind related to limerence (in the effect that limerence does not occur solely at the start of a new relationship). The term was coined by Zhahai Stewart in the 1980's^[1], and it is defined as the sexual and emotional attractions and feelings characterizing the early stages of a romantic relationship. By contrast to limerence, New Relationship Energy consists largely of positive and enjoyable feelings, occurs in almost all relationships to significant degree, thrives on known mutuality of feelings, and thus lasts longer than limerence. This term is particular used in the polyamorous community in large part because polyamorous people often experience New Relationship Energy alongside ongoing but older relationships and the contrast is an important factor in balancing those relationships.

One way to integrate the concepts of limerence and NRE is to observe that sometimes the earliest stages of NRE, before mutuality of feelings are established, can exhibit a more transient and unstable limerence phase. That phase, if it occurs, typically dissipates at the same time that NRE becomes strongest - when both parties express and act upon their mutual attractions.^{[citation needed]}