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[edit] Need for clear up

There is a need for an article which sets out the common Christian view of marriage, along with clear denominational and/or cultural and temporal variations in views as they actually exist. The polemical nature of the article as it stands probably puts many people off reading further and profiting from the many well-researched features of it. Just play the Wikopedia game, please. It did put me off, I just wanted to find out what the various denominations teach and some feel for their diversity. Doesn't do much for marriage or Christianity. Who thinks it is a sacrement and who doesn't? Who thinks it's a life long contract and who doesn't and why? Is there a way of untangling the various views on the relative values placed on sex, childrearing, companionship, social obligations? Is there a way of factoring in varying views on gender roles - giving due weight to traditional, or dominant, or strongly held, views, but also some idea of their variations, and perhaps shading into new, or contemporary or minority views, with a sense that all might be genuinely held.

i would like someone to talk english and say how christians think about marraige(OF THE OPPOSITE SEX) in the answer plaes]e can you answer theese questions:

1.is there any particular age you have to be to get married and if there is then what is it 2.can you marry any other religion other than christians 3.is it right for christians to get a divorce 4.what % of the christian population has had a divorce 5.Is there any particular dresscode for a bride and groom 6.do you have to get married in a church or registery office 8.to get married do you have to go to church every sunday 9.did anyone notice i missed out number 7

lol if an one can answer i would be eternaly gratefull jasmin

As of now 12/8/2001, this entry was written by me, Jimbo Wales, a person who has no expert knowledge of any kind in this area, and who only knows a little bit about any of this, from the general culture.

Therefore, it should be rewritten by someone other than me, who knows what they are talking about.  :-)

--Jimbo Wales

I deleted this text that was talking about the availability of annulments in the US Catholic church:

, although they usually require large financial donations to their church.

I deleted it because it seems slanderous, and no further information was given, and because Jimbo said he had no expert knowledge. If this sort of accusation is going to be made, it needs to be well founded and verifiable, not just based on what someone may have heard. Or so it seems to me. --Wesley

Are you telling me that this is controversial? This has been standard Catholic practice in the USA for the last 20 years. Shelia Kennedy just wrote a book about it. I can look up more info, but my understanding is that annulments are the modern day version of dispensation.

As to Shelia Kennedy, I have never read her procedeings. I understand that she appealed to the Roman Rota. If so, they will render a verdict that can sometimes be read -- the rota does publish some decisions. Beware, however, they publish only in Latin. As to the cost, it varies by the diocese. The Archdiocese of Galveston Houston requests $450 as a processing fee. This can be waived when a person is unable to pay.85.20.108.62 20:48, 8 December 2005 (UTC)

On a happier note, the Catholic entry could use more about the positive view of marriage that Catholics have, perhaps even saying something about children. It shouldn't be dominated by divorce, although it's good to cover that too. And of course someone needs to wax eloquent about the protestant view. :-) --Wesley

Yes, it is controversial that large donations are required. Since canon lawyers are involved, there are some legal costs, but these will, I understand, be generally reduced or removed for the indigent. [GaryfromMN] claims that his annullment cost "a few hundred dollars". This is nothing compared to divorce costs. -- Alexander Pruss

I'm not sure about all the catholic issues but I would say the part about homosexuality in the Protestant section was inaccurate. The word "most" was substituted for "some". The word "traditional" was replaced with biblical view. As I understand it most Protestant mainline churches are still holding to the view that marriage is between a man and a woman. In regards to Roman Catholics it would be safe to say that their views are similar to a majority of Protestants, meaning marriage can be defined as a commitment by one woman and one man. This is stated and is reinforced by the fact that a clear position came from the Vatican in Rome recently. That the American Episcopalian church has voted recently to adopt a homosexual in it's clergy is worth taking note. This fact probably will lead to a split in Episcopalian church. nhishands4ever

[edit] History of religious views on marriage

i've recently seen a documentary on Discovery Channel where it stated that marriage has been a Christian religious service only since the 16th century. It also said that until then Roman Catholics totally opossed marriage. I'm not sure how accurate this information is. Could anyone shed some light on this subject?

Marriage was declared a Sacrament at the Council of Trent. This is also that set the number of sacraments at 7. The Church has never opposed marriage, but rather has always celebrated this union in different ways. The constants have always been: man and woman, life long union, good of children, good of the couple, fidelity, and consent of both parties. The location of marriage is less important than the structure of the vows themselves.Davescj 20:52, 8 December 2005 (UTC)

[edit] Response on history

Prior to the Council of Trent in the 16th century, it was not uncommon to publically celebrate marriages on church steps. Moreover, marriage was believed to be a sacrament even if celebrated privately, without any witnesses. (Just as baptism is a sacrament even when it is performed privately by one layman on another layman.) The Council of Trent, in order to emphasize the sacramental nature of marriage, required that a valid marriage should involve a cleric and two witnesses (except, I assume, in cases of necessity, like desert isles, and so on).

There was no opposition to marriage, since marriage was always seen as an image of the love between Christ and the Church, but celibacy for the sake of the Kingdom of God has always been touted as even better than marriage. -- Alexander Pruss

[edit] Genesis 5:21

"One commonly used text is from the Gospel of Matthew (which is itself a quote from the book of Genesis). "...For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." Matthew 19: 5-6 (quoting from Genesis 5:21)"

However, Genesis 5:21 says "And Enoch lived sixty and five years and begat Methuselah." In fact, the entire chapter is the lineage of Noah, from Adam to Noah's sons. I'm using a KJV Bible. It would also be good to mention in the article which version of the Bible that particular translation is from.

Well spotted; I've corrected the reference. honeydew 14:09, 2 Feb 2005 (UTC)

[edit] Roman Catholic

I was wondering if you'd want to cite sources for the information... an expert of Canon law would be useful here... but, I guess a book or online site it was take from would be good. gren 12:30, 25 Apr 2005 (UTC)

• I added a quotation and reference from the Catholic Catechism.

Roodog2k 20:16, 4 May 2005 (UTC)

A couple of Canon Law references would be the Vatican's own site, it has the Code of Canon law on it. Specifically, many larger libraries will probably have the Commentary on the Code of Canon Law published by the Canon Law Society of America.

[edit] so not enough information

I am student and writing an essay from the information on this site and most of it is confusing. It is very interesting on finding out many different religious views there are on marriage and divorce. thnks for taking time to read this xx i LOVE you all!

[edit] plz answer

i was just wondering about christiam beliefs on marraige and if there r ne rules like there are in the muslim...etc religions thanx

jasmin

Jasmin, it would depend on which Christian denomination you speak about. Some have mroe rules than others. The Catholic Church has a whole body of legislation on marriage.DaveTroy

Not to mention that the Muslims have LOTS of rule -- which specific ones are you interested in? Goldfritha 22:14, 18 June 2006 (UTC)

[edit] Requested move : "religion-X's view(s) of marriage" to "religion-X's teaching(s) on marriage"

Involves Christian, Jewish, Buddhist, Hindu, Confucian Main discussion at Talk:Jewish view of marriage#Requested move : "religion-X's view of marriage" to "religion-X's teaching on marriage". Zargulon 23:50, 31 March 2006 (UTC)

This page does not have a NPOV with regard to the topic of polygamy. This must be addressed. Polygamy was accepted in the Christian church prior to the 5th century, and is often accepted still.

[edit] The "Protestant" section is just awful

I don't know what happened here, but besides the rediculous amount of padding, there is this whole trad vs. egalitarian framework superimposed without respect to denomination which fairly reeks of original research. I am frankly inclined to just remove the whole section, with extreme prejudice, unless someone can come up with a cite pretty soon. Mangoe 18:07, 27 November 2006 (UTC)

[edit] Appeal from the Author

I appeal to you not to remove the section, especially with prejudice. I am a professional who works daily in the area of abuse to women in marriage that is committed very sadly in the Name of God. A friend of mine is a secular counselor/therapist who wrote the Book Battered into Submission which he has filled with chronicles of atrocities he has seen in his work--the many ways certain sicko husbands have literally BATTERED their wife into SUBMISSION using the "Husband is Head"..."Wives, Submit" passages as God-ordained justification to do that. Where the wife escapes physical abuse, she gets it as chronic emotional abuse.

Point is that so much of this is being done in the Name of Christ, and it's a huge and growing problem. The Far Right religious folks lump non-hierarchical marriage view into the pot they label "Liberal." They seriously frown on divorce, but expect the wife and kids to stay in these situations submissively--no matter what!

The section DOES cover a very crucial aspect of CHRISTIAN VIEWS OF MARRIAGE. But you're right that it is mostly without respect to denomination. The views we've described are transdenominational for the most part. That why we decided to "slice the cake" along the lines we chose. With literally hundreds of Protestant denominations out there, a by-denomination approach would be tedious and lengthy. Second, it would be almost meaningless since only rarely does a single denomination self-unify enough to take a united stance regarding roles in marriage.

Couples looking up this article need to know that at least within Protestantism (but it's not limited to them) they can expect to have their honeymoon ideals shattered the first time he goes to a Men's Conference and she does the same with the women. Powerful teachers in these settings where husband and wife are perhaps most vulnerable will convincingly teach that "you will be disobeying God Himself if you husbands don't fulfill your role as Head and become the Leader God Meant for You to Be," and similarily "You wives will be disobeying God Himself if you don't learn to submit GRACIOUSLY to the will of your husband in essentially all things." They are also likely to get immersed into these murky waters during their premarital counseling.

I'll be glad to dialog further. I hope you personally have somehow escaped the pain and ravages of prescribed and demanded hierarchy in marriage where the woman is essentially given permanent status as a minor, and the husband is given similarly permanent rank as Head in the CEO, Chairman of the Board, Boss sense. It's one thing for some sociologist or psychologist or whoever to teach that anthropological differences between the sexes might fit best into this model or that. It's a far more damning thing for powerful clergy to loudly proclaim that by virtue of their gender the women are inferior leaders, and in fact must leave the leading to the husband, no matter what a jerk he might be, no matter how ignorant or inept he might be, no matter even if he is a sadist who gets his kicks from subordinating the "weaker" physically, psychologically or both. And it's demanded even if she is a Ph.D. Economist and he is an hour laborer who quit school in the 7th grade! He MUST be the one to manage family finances, simply because he was born with the secondary characteristic of "male." That said, the punch line is that Christians teach Marriage Is For Keeps with very few exception clauses to escape. Is it any wonder that the suicide rate among women is so high?

I hope we can continue this discussion.

Thanks-CME_GBM 13:41, 30 November 2006 (UTC)-CME GBM 19:51, 30 November 2006 (UTC)

I think you've maybe got things a bit wrong there - just a quick look over your arguments above - the WOMAN is supposed to be in charge of the finances (referenced in Proverbs). The woman is also not the minor - husband and wife are supposed to submit to each other. I can go into more detail if you require. Hope this helps. SparrowsWing 20:02, 30 November 2006 (UTC)

Wikipedia is not a soapbox - an appropriately sourced concise summary may be applicable but this is not the place to advocate. As it currently reads it sounds like original research.

In order to keep this section in, the following are needed:

• Some references that this theory of marriage has some professional acceptance
• Rewritten with a more "encyclopedic tone"
• Provide inline citations to reliable sources

Let me know if you need any help/clarification. --Trödel 22:42, 30 November 2006 (UTC)

[edit] Catholic goods/ends of marriage

I deleted the section on "remedy for..." as this no longer reflects either the law nor the teaching of the Church. While it was held from the time of St Augustine till Vatican 2, it is no longer the teaching about marriage.DaveTroy 17:08, 5 March 2007 (UTC)