Anteros

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This article is about the mythological character. See also Anteros (pope)
Anteros. By Alfred Gilbert, 1885; From the Shaftesbury Memorial in Piccadilly Circus
Anteros. By Alfred Gilbert, 1885; From the Shaftesbury Memorial in Piccadilly Circus

In Greek mythology, Anteros (Αντερως / Anterôs) is the god of requited love, literally "love returned," and also the punisher of those who scorn love and the advances of others, or the avenger of unrequited love.

Anteros was the son of Ares and Aphrodite in Greek mythology, given to his brother Eros, who was lonely, as a playmate, the rationale being that love must be answered if it is to prosper [1]. Physically, he is depicted as similar to Eros in every way, but with long hair and butterfly wings. He has been described also as armed with either a golden club or arrows of lead [2].

Anteros, with Eros, was one of a host of winged love gods called Erotes, the ever-youthful winged gods of love, usually depicted as winged boys in the company of Aphrodite or her attendant goddesses.

The term was also used for the love which arises in the beloved boy in a pederastic relationship.

An altar to this god was put up by the metics in Athens in commemoration of the spurned love of the metic Timagoras who was rejected by the young Athenian Meles. Upon hearing Timagoras' declaration of love for him, the young man mockingly ordered him to throw himself down from the top of a tall rock. Seeing Timagoras dead, the youth repented and threw himself down from the same rock. [Pausanias 1.30.1]

Describing the nature of the emotion, Plato asserts that it is the result of the great love that a lover has for a boy. The lover, inspired by the beauty of the boy, is filled with divine love and it overflows from him to the boy, "filling the soul of the loved one with love in return." As a result, the boy falls in love with his lover, though he neither thinks nor speaks of it as love, but as friendship. His experience of pain when the two are apart, and relief when they are together, the mirror image of the lover's feelings, is anteros, or "counter-love." [Phaedrus.255]

Anteros is the subject of the Shaftesbury Memorial in Piccadilly Circus, London, where he symbolises the selfless philanthropic love of the Earl of Shaftesbury for the poor. The memorial is sometimes given the name The Angel of Christian Charity, and is popularly called Eros.