Silver rule

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Related to the ethical principle of the golden rule, the silver rule states "Treat others in the way that they wish to be treated."

Because of cultural and personal differences, the silver rule is sometimes more useful in practice than the golden rule. However, because it requires intimate knowledge of the subject it is also much more difficult to successfully implement.

For example, someone acting in accordance with the golden rule might use a very forceful handshake because he himself likes firm handshakes. Someone acting in accordance with the silver rule would use a forceful handshake only if he believes that the person on the receiving end would prefer a firm handshake.

The ideals of chivalry are related to the silver rule, especially insomuch as they relate to the behavior of men toward women.

The golden rule, which is based on the ethic of reciprocity, can even be seen as arrogant, selfish, isolationist, or lazy compared to the silver rule, which is based on the ethic of altruism. Making an effort to consider the subject's point of view and preferences helps to build understanding, and shows respect and tolerance.

Because the silver rule is so useful for intimate relationships, it might be better referred to as the "diamond rule" and be taught to newlyweds or prospective newlyweds or life partners.^{[original research?]} Most people who marry soon learn that they cannot change their spouse to any great degree. Rather, it is better (for the marriage) to consider what pleases your partner.

The silver rule is also obviously superior to the golden rule when it comes to gift-giving.