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Frot

Frot is male-male genital sex, where male partners engage in the rubbing of erect penis on erect penis, typically while in full-frontal embrace. ^[1] Various other sexual positions for frot are of course possible. Frot can be pleasurable because it mutually stimulates each partner's penis, especially the frenulum nerve bundle under the glans.

The term frot specifies mutual male-male genital sex, as opposed to various methods of frottage, but is sometimes used colloquially to mean frottage (and vice-versa), nevertheless. The term frictation can refer to the wider meaning of frottage^[2] but it can also refer to penis-penis sex specifically.^[3]

1 Advantages of frot
2 Frot in gay and mainstream culture
3 Frot in the construction of a masculine gay identity
4 Synonyms
5 Frot in non-human animals
6 See also
7 Sources

[edit] Advantages of frot

Both partners pleasure each other symmetrically.
They can see each other and make eye contact.
They can combine sex with kissing on the mouth including French kisses.
They can both caress one another.
Requires very little suppleness from either partner.
Can be done kneeling, standing, or lying face-to-face or head-to-toe.
Does not cause pain to either partner.
Frot is lower risk for some sexually transmitted infections than oral sex or anal sex^{[citation needed]}. There are no known cases of HIV transmission through frot^{[citation needed]}, for example, although most safer sex educators recommend being careful of open cuts or abrasions. Unprotected frot does, however, carry the risk of herpes, molluscum contagiosum, genital warts, crabs, or other STIs passed by simple contact.

[edit] Frot in gay and mainstream culture

Slang terms for frot include "bumping dicks" and "knocking cocks", ^[4] as well as "swordfighting", "penis fencing", "banging sticks", and "cock-to-cock".

Slang terms such as "Oxford Style" and "Princeton rub" refer to "belly-fucking", where a partner grinds his penis between his and his partner's abdomens. Or both partners do so mutually. Thus, it is male-male frottage, but properly is not the same thing as frot.

A "G0y" is a homosexual man who does not practice anal sex.

In the 1997 British Comedy film The Full Monty one of the main characters facetiously claims to have been "rubbing pipe" when caught in a group of nearly nude men, explaining "you don't get your clothes dirty this way" (somewhat combining frot with grind dancing).

The 1998 book Wrestling for Gay Guys by Donald Black features a list of wrestling styles that includes "climax wrestling" also known as "cockfighting".

Bill Weintraub, advocates frot as the primary expression of male-male sexuality on his website ^[5] and in a few interviews and op-ed pieces,^[6]

[edit] Frot in the construction of a masculine gay identity

The physical act of frot preexists the evolution of hominids into humans and bonobos, and occurs frequently in the homosexual activity of both of these genetically related species.^[7]

Nevertheless, the use of the word frot to describe this act did not occur until very recently, when Bill Weintraub coined the term in 2000 in his article, "Frot: The Next Sexual Revolution", which calls on gay men to adopt frot sexuality and reject the "cultural deathgrip" of anal sexuality:

"This growing movement of men into frot who disown anal sex is not simply a matter of sexual taste. It goes farther than that, for it's a rejection of the overly and unhealthily feminized self-image of gay men that has dominated our lives for generations. It is like other masculinist impulses among the gay masses, a manifestation of the collective unconscious correcting a psychic phenomenon that has lingered too long in one direction. So it's no accident that men into frot reject almost every aspect of the anal sex worldview, embracing equality and masculinity as the essence of a gay male sexual experience, and often, though not always, seeking involvement in such traditional male contact sports as wrestling and boxing."

Thus, the concept of frot emerged in a context of a debate within the gay male community, about the role of anal sex in gay culture. Usage of the term frot may still connote hostility to anal sexuality. For example, the Urban Dictionary of slang has its first definition of frot: "Used in the gay community as a term for an activity involving sexual gratification by rubbing that occurs between two men, who do not wish to engage in anal intercourse". Nevertheless, the term frot no longer requires the assumption of hostility to anal sex, and the second definition is simply "rubbing penises together", in and of itself.

A common goal of the frot-vs-anal discourse is to redefine the gender connotations of sex. ^{[citation needed]} The idea is to shift out of a heterosexual rubric, where frot is "false" sex being used as foreplay for "real" sex, which is penetrative vaginal sex and only "mimicked" by anal sex ^{[citation needed]}. In contrast, frot is meant by some to establish an exclusively homosexual rubric, where frot is the "real" sex, in and of itself, because it is a means of direct intimate genital contact with other males, none of them having vaginas, and thus making penetrative anal (as if vaginal) sex "false". ^{[citation needed]} Through this polemic, proponents argue that frot achieves both homosexuality and masculine prestige ^{[citation needed]}, and that sexual orientation (being attracted to a male and/or female) and gender identity (feeling masculine and/or feminine) are independent variables.

[edit] Synonyms

Before frot came into use as the technical term for this act, the available alternatives included frictation (though fricate can refer to any genital friction, including frottage, coitus and masturbation), and frontism.

Genito-genital rubbing or GG rubbing is a term frequently used by primatologists to describe tribadism among bonobo females.^[8] It is sometimes used in reference to bonobo males with the colorful term "penis fencing".

Genito-genital sex or genital-genital sex is a physically descriptive term for sex in which there is contact between the genitals, in the same naming convention as "genital-anal sex" and "genital-oral sex".^[9]

[edit] Frot in non-human animals

The homosexual activities of bonobos are of special interest because of their genetic closeness to humans. Among bonobos, frot frequently occurs when two males hang from a tree limb and engage in penis fencing. Frot also occurs while two males are in missionary position. A special form of frot occurs when two males express reconciliation after a conflict, where they stand back-to-back and rub their scrotums together.^{[citation needed]}

Frot has been observed between bull manatees, in conjunction with "kissing", as well as in bottlenose dolphins. Other forms of frot are also common among homosexually active mammals. Most species of bird do not possess a penis; for those animals, the distinction between penetrative and non-penetrative sex does not exist.^{[citation needed]}