Erotic spanking
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Erotic spanking is the practice of spanking another for the sexual gratification of either or both parties. Erotic spanking can be regarded as a form of BDSM activity in some cases (sadomasochism in particular), although many spanking devotees do not regard it as such.
Many spankings are carried out with the use of bare hands, or with spanking implements such as hairbrush, paddle, belt, cane, riding crop, whip, switch (rod), birch, gloves, a ruler or martinet (see Category:Spanking implements). Erotic spankings are most commonly combined with sexual foreplay, oral sex, sexual intercourse, sexual roleplaying and/or ageplay. The most common type of erotic spanking is administered on the bare buttocks, with the spankee in many cases being fully nude, for additional sexual arousal, or for humiliation (but mainly in a BDSM context). Bondage is also combined occasionally with erotic spankings, to heighten sexual arousal and feelings of helplessness of the spankee, but is very common in BDSM relationships.
Positions for spanking include:
- over the knees (OTK) or across the lap
- stooped over a chair or couch
- on hands and knees (bed or floor)
- kneeling on a bed or ottoman, stooped over with hands on the floor
- diaper position (genital exposure to enhance humiliation)
- bent under the arm of the spanker
- lying face down on a bed
- birching block
- wooden horse
When men spank women, they may sometimes like them to dress up as a schoolgirl, or to roleplay the part of a "daughter", "secretary", "nurse", "maid" and other roles (and then proceed to lower the panties <if any> before administering the spanking). Men who enjoy being spanked (whether giving or receiving) may like women to wear some combination of a skirt, high heels, garter belt, nylons, and fancy panties; if the women are the spanker, men may enjoy women who dress and act superior, and dress the part of a sexually dominant female dominatrix, and also may involve the spanker role-playing the part of a strict teacher, headmistress, governess, boss, nurse, babysitter or wife.
Those interested in giving or receiving erotic spankings are sometimes (rarely) known as spankophiles or spankos. Examples include the poet Algernon Swinburne and the philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau.
A few people with a sexual interest in spanking draw on historical corporal punishment techniques used in homes, schools, courts or prisons. However they are generally careful to distinguish their consensual sexual activities from their views of child-rearing, education and public policy. Punishment spankings and erotic spankings are easy to to separate, as punishment spanking usually involve the spankee experiencing medium to extreme physical discomfort or pain in the administration of the spanking, sometimes to the point of crying, which in the context of domestic discipline, is a form of emotional release and behavioral modification, and/or mental/physical control over the spankee by the spanker.
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[edit] Spanking
Despite contrary notions, spanking can often be found with people who were never spanked as a child, often coming out later in life as repressed role playing/wish fulfillment.[citation needed]
These paraphilia can take on many varieties. In the erotic fiction of this type, spanking is seen as natural as a reflex as sitting on a chair or making dinner. Other types include "spanking between friends", "parent-child spankings", "sibling spanking" and authoritarian school discipline spankings.
Spanking enthusiasts often keep at hand (privately) a variety of spanking implements such as paddles, whips, belts, etc; infrequently, these implements will also be kept on display (such as hanging together on a wall) as in the unusual, but not completely uncommon practice for a spanking paddle to be hung on display in the parents' bedroom as a continuing reminder to the children of potential punishment, when in fact it is primarily used for erotic paddlings given by one spouse to the other. (Paddles intended for actual punishment of children are not infrequently hung on display in some other area of the house <such as a hall or study>, or occasionally even in the child's own room.)[citation needed]
[edit] Playful non-erotic spanking
Sometimes spanking is done in a playful manner that is neither a form of punishment nor is it intended as an erotic act. A tradition that often begins with childhood and can continue to adulthood is a "birthday spanking". This type of spanking is most often associated with a birthday celebration during which sometimes the person celebrating the birthday is spanked playfully, one time for each year of their life - and then some more "to be good on and to grow on," sometimes also "for luck and for love." It is not meant to hurt or overly humiliate the spanked party (although sometimes a paddle is used, and occasionally it is given on the bare bottom). Often the act is also associated with sports participants, who congratulatorily slap one another on the bottom.[citation needed]
It is a common practice in the United States for a stripper to spank the groom-to-be during his bachelor party, while his drunk friends cheer her on. This can be done either on the stage at a strip club or by a stripper or strippers hired for a private bachelor party.[citation needed]
More rarely, at her wedding shower a bride-to-be is given a "gag gift" such as a pair of pink panties that say "Remove before spanking" on the back; and her friends may threaten to have her "try them out" (by having them spank or paddle her) to "see how they work." Similarly, the groom may as a gag be given a paddle with step-by-step "How to spank your wife" instructions painted on it.[citation needed]
[edit] References and further reading
- Lady Green, The Compleat Spanker, Greenery Press, 2000. ISBN 1-890159-00-X.
[edit] See also
- Spanking magazines
- Berkley horse
- Spanking bench
- Flagellation
- Nexus Books
- Penny Birch
- Yolanda Celbridge
- Wendy Swanscombe
- Dippoldism
